The Regret Prevention Movement(TM): Life is Short...Get to Living!
"It's not how LONG we live that matters most; it's how FULLY. We shouldn't be afraid of dying; we should be afraid of regretting the way we lived." Julie Clark Lingen
THE PURPOSE, PASSION (AND PAIN) BEHIND THE LIFE IS SHORT...GET TO LIVING(TM) BRAND & THE REGRET PREVENTION MOVEMENT(TM)
I believe that out of our pain can also come our greatest inspiration... It certainly has for me. My lifestyle brand LIFE IS SHORT…GET TO LIVING!(TM) and THE REGRET PREVENTION MOVEMENT(TM) are very personal projects for me, which have grown out of 3 of my greatest adversities. For most people, LIFE IS SHORT is a common cliché, but for me, those words run so much deeper. For those who don't know my story, 3 life-altering events have led me to where I am today and have taught me the depth of these 3 words: LIFE IS SHORT. As challenging as they’ve been, I’ve come to appreciate the perspective each has given me:
- Learning I am living 50% at-risk for a cruel, incurable brain disease that could start cutting my life short at any time. Having to face the potential of your own mortality definitely changes the way you see life. It reminds you that LIFE IS SHORT. And dying is inevitable.
- Losing one of my closest friends since junior high suddenly and unexpectedly at 37-years old--without any time to say goodbye. Being asked to give the eulogy at one of your best friends' funerals while they're still in their 30's definitely changes the way you see life. It reminds you that LIFE IS SHORT. And dying is inevitable.
- The death of my dad before I turned 40. Sitting beside your dad on his deathbed, holding his hand while you wait for him to take his final breath, definitely changes the way you see life. It reminds you that LIFE IS SHORT. And dying is inevitable.
Though painful, these three experiences have now become three of my greatest motivators for life, sparking a brand and movement that's dear to my heart. They've taught me the honest truth about life and death: DYING IS INEVITABLE. LIFE IS SHORT for all of us so we need to GET TO LIVING! None of us truly knows what the future holds or how much time we have left. Tomorrow isn't promised to any of us. Life can change in an instant and it could all be over. Each of us is going to die and the truth is we don't know when--some of us will have longer lives; some of us will have shorter lives. It's just a fact of life. And that's OK. Because something else that life has taught me is what matters most isn't how LONG we live; it's how FULLY we live while we're here. For the most part, the length of our life is out of our control, but the FULLNESS is within it. WE SHOULDN'T BE AFRAID OF DYING, WE SHOULD BE AFRAID OF REGRETING THE WAY WE LIVED (or didn't live...). WE CAN'T PREVENT DYING, BUT WE CAN PREVENT REGRET by living more FULLY NOW. That's where our power lies and that's where my focus, passion and purpose now lies: In helping others LIVE MORE FULLY the time we are given. Dying shouldn’t scare us; it should inspire and motivate us to live more fully & urgently TODAY! That’s exactly what it’s done for me! I hope by sharing my personal story, I may help inspire you to GET TO LIVING too because ALL OF US ARE DYING, BUT NOT ALL OF US ARE FULLY LIVING... And that's why I'm also on a mission to help more people PREVENT REGRET on their deathbed…
THE REGRET PREVENTION MOVEMENT(TM): DYING IS INEVITABLE, BUT REGRET IS PREVENTABLE.
THE NEED: I've launched THE REGRET PREVENTION MOVEMENT because I believe there is a need for change in how we live our lives, and also a change in how we view death and dying. So many people fear dying and I used to be one of them. When I first learned I was living at-risk for a terminal disease, I thought the worst thing that could happen to me was dying... But now I know that it's not. DYING IS NOT THE WORST THING THAT CAN HAPPEN TO US. What's worse is looking back on our deathbed and regretting how we lived the time we were given. THERE IS NOTHING MORE PAINFUL THAN REGRET. It's not our life that flashes before us when we're dying; it's our regrets... The world is full of people on their deathbed who look back on their life with so many regrets for how they wish they’d lived differently and made changes sooner when they had the chance. In fact, I recently heard an alarming statistic that MORE people regret their lives than not. ARE YOU GOING TO BE ONE OF THEM? Sadly, it's been said that most people die in their 20's but don't get buried until their 80's... They cut their own lives short while they're still alive and don't even realize it! It's no wonder that cemeteries are considered the wealthiest places in the world because they are filled with so many hopes, dreams, gifts, ideas, talents never used. How much of yours will be buried with you? Hearing how many people die with regrets on their deathbed causing them so much anguish, I wanted to find a way to use my situation, my story and my experience with my dad to help change that. We may not be able to prevent dying, but we can prevent regret. It's what has sparked a mission dear to my heart I'm calling: REGRET PREVENTION. Through THE REGRET PREVENTION MOVEMENT I hope to inspire others to start reflecting on their lives NOW and make meaningful changes--BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE--and help more people Prevent Regrets on their deathbed. We could spend less time looking back with regrets by spending more time looking at how we’re living (or not living!) today, and making changes NOW to ensure we don't have regrets in the end. Instead of looking back on our deathbed with regret, let's start looking at how fully we're living today. Dying is inevitable, but regret is preventable.
SO I CHALLENGE YOU AS SOMEONE WHO KNOWS THE PRECIOUSNESS OF EVERY SINGLE DAY & THE UNCERTAINTY OF TOMORROW... ARE THERE CHANGES YOU NEED TO START MAKING TO YOUR LIFE? WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR?
Making life changes can be scary, but what’s even scarier is REGRET. What should scare us more than dying is getting to our deathbed and regretting the way we lived... The time to say goodbye to this world will come for all of us. When it does, will you be regretting the way you spent your time, wishing you could go back and live over. Or will you lay back, smile, and say, "I lived fully!" We only get one shot at life. Don't let it pass you by. Life is short for all of us so we need to get to living. STOP WAITING AND START LIVING!
All my love,
“The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.” Mark Twain
"The tragedy of life is not death, but what we let die inside of us while we live." Norman Cousins
"And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count; it's the life in your years." Abraham Lincoln